Re: [mylifeismine] Relationship Delusions

what you say is pretty interesting.. and yes.. i'm interested in reading more about what you are learning from the cds.

On 9/1/08, Lisa Dean <songsfromthebody@yahoo.com> wrote:

Dear i fuc and others from the "My Life is Mine" group
 
I am currently listening to cds about relationships by Marianne
Williamson.  She also wrote the book "A Return to Love" and
this is a discussion about the book "A Course in Miracles"
and I don't know who wrote this. 
 
Anyway, the cds (four) are a series of public lectures, that she
has made around the world.  She talks about the "relationship
delusions" that we have.
 
And one of them is that someone else can make us happy.
 
She says that while we believe that another person, the "perfect"
person can be our saviour we will never be happy.  There is no
perfect person, we all need to learn to love everyone the same. 
 
Relationships work better when they are approached as a result
of desire, and not need. 
 
I'm still listening, and learning and trying to understand it. 
 
One of the things she says we do, is to create a picture in our
minds of what the relationship can be like.  Generally, this picture
is blown to pieces pretty quickly, because the two people have
two different pictures of how they want it to be. 
 
I will be glad to share this more, as I listen more to the cds. 
 
Let me know what you think. 
 
Regards,
 
Lisa
 
 


"The misfortunes of childhood affect the whole of one's life and leave an inconsolable well of sadness in the heart of man" P Bridas

--- On Wed, 3/14/07, i_fuc <i_fuc@yahoo.com> wrote:
 
From: i_fuc <i_fuc@yahoo.com>
Subject: [mylifeismine] understand you perfectly,
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Wednesday, March 14, 2007, 10:36 AM

Hi mate,
To be honest don't know how to help you now. wish could have a
couple of coffee and a good healthy chat to get the things out of
the heart.(both, mine and yours)
I feel the same, trying to find someone to talk to. Someone who
could listen understand and give some good advices.
Yet, don't have anyone. Am single, 46 and wish i could have a family
like yours. I feel that the time is going buy and i will be alone.
In the other hand you have your family and seems that you are alone
too. Life is funny heh!
Well, i am trying to read a lot, but also have to go to work and
when i get home after 8pm, i can read only a page and fall asleep.

Just before your message i sugested to a girl to read the book "the
secrets" by Rhonda Byrne. Please, read it, it is inspiring and
teachs you how to change your negative thoughts to posite ones.

Hope you have a nice reading and things starts changing for better
to you.
with lots of kindness, me

--- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "j32217" <j32217@...> wrote:
>
> Hi all,
>
> I just joined the group today and hopefully will get to know" the
> like-minded people through the group eventually.
> The reason for me to join the group is I want to see how others
who
> are in the similar situation as mine cope with their lives. I am
42
> and married and have one daughter starting year 7 this year. Life
is
> OK but rather bland in many ways. Weekdays there a lot of routine,
> work, home, work, home. Weeekends are basically filled with
grocery
> shopping, home cleaning, kind of thing. Our marriage is again OK
but
> somewhat boring, I probably don＊t have that much to talk to my
wife
> other than ※how＊s your day§ kind of stuff, nor does she to me.
> Getting into teenager, my daughter starts to have more debates
with
> us. I have read books about relationships with young adolescent
kids
> but in reality it＊s not that easy.
> So I really feel that life has lost its sparkle now. I am only 42
and
> I don＊t want to be like that. I want to have a change. I am
telling
> myself to think positively but it doesn＊t seem to be working that
> well. I tried to pick up new hobbies such as carpentry. I also try
to
> play more tennis. But I feel I want to make new friends, really
good
> friends with whom I can talk my heart out, and share our ups and
> downs.
>

 


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