[mylifeismine] my life as a dog....


Hi folks,

This thing about relationships is very complex.Everyone has their own story.
Mine is no different.
I have lived in Australia for the past 15 years illegally. How did i get it? well, it is a long story but the point is, i have lived there for all those years with no problems.
I had a good job (an area manager of a fast food chain) for ten years.
Paid my taxes like everyone else. Not involved in drugs,crimes etc.
I was just a normal guy trying to live my life in a country that i loved.

You might ask? Why did i love Australia so much?
Well, i can't explain. From the first time i step in the Australian soil i felt like i have lived there before, even though i did not speak the language fluently.
Now i am here in Brazil,back to my origin country.I have been here less than 2 month. Why?

Only because of my health, otherwise i would continually staying in Australia.
I am 47 years old and i had to do a blood test to check my prostate.
In Apr 08 it was (PSA 2.6).The average PSA for man is 2.5.
My GP told me that i had to do the test again to make sure.
Well, it took me 8 month to do that. Only because i felt that wasn't too bad.
In Nov 09 i did it again and came up with PSA 11. Sure i got scared.

On top of that, i got ulcerative colitis (an heritage inflammation of the colon).
My doctor said that this could be the cause of the higher level of PSA.
To my despair, the medication for the ulcerative colitis costs A$300 a box only because i did not have the MEDICARE card.(i was an  illegal immigrant, remember?)
Therefore, i was costing me a lot of money to maintain myself in Australia.
Now with this prostate test i had to investigate what's going on.

My doctor advised me to go back to Brazil as the country would not help me financially to do all tests and possibly operation there.
So in one month i got rid off all my belongs and came back to Brazil.

Now i am here, after 15 years without seeing my family. Of course i am pleased with it.
To see Mom and Dad, my only brother after 15 years is a great thing.

But i have no money saved, only the money i used to travel. Left my car with friends to be sold, closed the bank accounts and rushed to Brazil.
Now i am doing all the tests to check my health. It takes time as i had to redo all my Brazilian documentation again. (driver's license, id's, and health fund id,etc)
To be honest, i didn't want to come back.
I was happy there, even though i was working a lot, i had my place, car, belongings all conquered by myself those past years.

The customs told me that i could not go back to Australia within 3 years.
The only way i can go back is marrying someone.
Now you are saying about relationships, yep, it's hard to find a good company to live with for the rest of your life. I didn't find anyone...yet. (of course had some good people in my life, but not permanently)

I am desperately to go back to Australia and i am considering ask someone to marry me only to get the permanent visa. This way i could come and go whenever i want.
I don't want to pay anyone to do that (as I've seen many friends doing it there), firstly because i don't have money to pay, secondly i still think that there are good people out there that could do this from the heart.

You might ask, what do i get in exchange?
Well,, you might get the Brazilian passport, the same way i get the Australian and both of us will have at least some years of good company. Am not saying sexually attached but a good company to be with, go to movies, work, discuss our lives, learn form each other, cultures, languages, laugh, watch video together, read, coffee, etc... there are heaps of things to enjoy a good company... and maybe even to fall in love but this is not essential.

I am half happy for coming back to Brazil, as i can look after my health near my family (the only people in world cares about you) but in the other hand, my heart is in Australia and friends i have made there.

Can i ask you? Does things in life come for a reason? Will i ever go back to Australia and live happy thereafter?
Will i go trough this health problems and fight (find a way) to go back to Australia.
Heaps of questions are coming to my mind now, but i can't find the answer.

I just wanted to share this with you guys, as i said, each one of us have their own story, how would end, we are not sure. We got keep going and expect the best of it.

Thank you for reading this, i understand is a long story.there is more but i can't write it all here.
wish you the best, and "the force be with you"

Cheers

igorfuchs

Brazil




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Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

does that not absolve you of your esponsibility?
that i s very poor in my veiw i think that a relationship takes work, if you say you are a puppet in the hands of destiny then you relinquish control pf your own life
i consider that to be fundamentally wrong

--- On Sat, 2/7/09, Jaipal Singh Datta <jpsdatta@yahoo.co.nz> wrote:
From: Jaipal Singh Datta <jpsdatta@yahoo.co.nz>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Saturday, February 7, 2009, 2:25 AM

You are very right dear.
I also feel the same.
But I realized later on that nothing is in our hand.
We are only puppets in the hand of destiny.
For this all read my
www.srimadbhagwatge eta.com
www.jaipaldatta. com

--- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>


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Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

a house is a pile of bricks
a person is a soul
please do not compare and please do not belittle the importance of a life long relationship of love and commitment

--- On Sat, 2/7/09, fionacomber <fionacomber@yahoo.com.au> wrote:
From: fionacomber <fionacomber@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Saturday, February 7, 2009, 1:58 AM

Hi there,

I don't have much to offer in terms of advice, but I thought that you
might benefit from another perspective. Each of your relationships
could be seen as a journey or an experience rather than an achievement
of success or failure. What would a successful relationship be like
for you? how long would it last? How would you say it's a success and
by what definition are you calling it a failure?

Nothing is altogether black or all white. There are positives that
come from each relationship and the lessons that you can learn from
the people who touch your lives. Sometimes that is for a short time,
sometimes that is for much longer. Even if you stay with the same
person for a number of years, you will grow and change together as
your needs change.

Not many people live in the same house forever. They move house for so
many reasons. It doesn't mean the house was a failure, or that their
living situation was a failure. It's just a house. Some houses are
more suitable than others. Some are more comfortable than others,
some are more expensive too.

it's just a thought...Not the solution for you, but hopefully you can
find some hope there.

-- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I
am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a
relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>


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