Re: [mylifeismine] New member

We hear you! Could'nt have put it better myself. Yes its great to have people who will just listen to you, empathise, support and just make you feel good about yourself. Not make you feel pathetic and like a loser because you are having a tough time. Sometimes all it takes is listening with the right expression. Even that helps so much.
 But kudos to you for accepting the fact that life is tough and sucks. I was reminded of a sister who is really going through a bad time but does'nt want to accept how messed up her life is. On top of that is burningly envious of me and my supposed good fortune! She does'nt seem to realise that because I dont have the same problems as her does'nt mean i dont have other issues in my life. She always chatters away as if nothing is wrong or then retreats in silence.
 I wish that instead of all these pretenses she would just honestly talk. We are family and not that far from each other in age so I could help, even if just as a sounding board. I've known her all her life. She wants my company but her ego prevents her from opening up. She's had a tough life, but frankly guys her attitude stinks so much that its difficult to tolerate it. Does that sound very horrible of me?
 Anyway sometimes life totally sucks: all you can do is hang in there.


--- On Mon, 1/12/08, jen2blu4u <jennychiu100@yahoo.com.au> wrote:
From: jen2blu4u <jennychiu100@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] New member
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Monday, 1 December, 2008, 6:46 PM

Hello out there, life really sucks right now. Can't stand how some
people try to "fix" you, when they havent got a clue. They just tell me
what to do & make me feel bad, & make my worries sound unimportant.
Sometimes u just want someone to listen to you,- not to tell you how
pathetic you are. Friends & relos r supposed to b supportive, not
condesending & patronising. These people plunge me deeper into
depression.

To everyone out there who r finding life tuff, hang in there.


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hai iam very as a indian i know the feelings of urs. pls forget that and take care to ur children.bye

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[mylifeismine] New member

Hello out there, life really sucks right now. Can't stand how some
people try to "fix" you, when they havent got a clue. They just tell me
what to do & make me feel bad, & make my worries sound unimportant.
Sometimes u just want someone to listen to you,- not to tell you how
pathetic you are. Friends & relos r supposed to b supportive, not
condesending & patronising. These people plunge me deeper into
depression.

To everyone out there who r finding life tuff, hang in there.

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Re: [mylifeismine] Re: New Member

Hello
 This mail really struck  a chord. We find ourselves in these situations so often! Yes I have discovered that friends will often use us emotionally, specially ones who are self centered, insecure, dominating or just plain weak! I have met so many such people that I have decided it is better to have fewer friends and be alone if necessary. I firmly believe that you are your best friend! If you can learn to enjoy your own company then you will be stronger and will be able to deal with such people. Never let anyone use you.
 That leaves us with the important question of lonliness. How to deal with it? Keep yourself busy? Work out, read, go swimming, housework...the options are endless. And even after these options there still come times when you are alone and crave human companionship.
 Yes our friends can be selfish but then where does one go for companionship? I think we have to be firm in dealing with our friends, make them also listen to us once in a while instead of only listening to their endless complaints and whining. It is an effort but worth it in the end because really "no man is an island".
   Life is tough is'nt it? It seems every day you wake up and find out it got a little bit more tougher over the night!
 Regards
Sangita

--- On Mon, 1/12/08, Sue Dietman <dietmansue@yahoo.com.au> wrote:
From: Sue Dietman <dietmansue@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] Re: New Member
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Monday, 1 December, 2008, 6:58 AM

Hi there,
               My husband and I havent broken up, he just works away, 400 kl away. He only comes home once a month for 4 days. When he comes home he has to catch up with his family and any appointments that he has which doesnt leave much time for us. Plus he is not one to discuss things and  does  not want to see what Im going through. My friends only want to know me when they have problems and there is only so much you can share with your parents. Plus I dont want to burden them. I have tried to talk to husband  but he just doesnt seem to see any problems.
From: xiaoli ma <xiaoli_m@yahoo. com.au>
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Sent: Friday, 28 November, 2008 8:19:14 PM
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] Re: New Member

Hi,
Sorry to hear that the breakup of your marriage has been especially difficult. You will make lots of new friends and your life a marvoulous adventure. Good luck on your new journey.
I am a divorcee and have found that embracing life and change is a marvoulous and not so scarey thing. Look at it this way, new friends, new life, new journey, lots of excitment... out with the old and in with the new..

--- On Thu, 27/11/08, dietmansue <dietmansue@yahoo. com.au> wrote:
From: dietmansue <dietmansue@yahoo. com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: New Member
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Received: Thursday, 27 November, 2008, 1:26 PM

--- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, Edwina Zimml <ezimml@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi Sue,  It was nice to read your letter, I too get very lonley.
After my 26yr marriage broke up ,I not only lost a lot of friends but
also family. With the death of both parents and my brother, in a few
years well!that just did it .Then I had a car accident and lost the
job I was training for didnt help. I too have had suvere depression
infact, at times it sets in again and that is when It is very hard
when you have noone to talk too So thank you for responding to my
request to join you group. JULES
> Hi JULES, thank you for you letter. Sorry to hear of your losses.
It must have been hard. I havnt lost anyone recently but my husband
and my two eldest(daughters) moved away to work leaving myself and my
20 yr old son at home. He only moved back 18 mth ago. But I find it
hard to talk to him about alot of things. The girls have their own
lifes and I dont like to intrude. Plus there are somethings you just
cant talk to them about. My Husband thinks "here we go again" Im
sure.He only comes home for 4 days a month so he doesnt want to hear
about it. So having someone to talk to like this might help. I havent
gone through as much as you have though. Makes me feal bad that I am
complaining. I too get depression back now and then. Espessialy when
I feel that my family dont care or when everything feals like it is
getting on top of me. Once again thanks for your letter and hope to
hear from you soon.Sue
>
>
>
> ____________ _________ _________ __
> From: dietmansue <dietmansue@ ...>
> To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
> Sent: Friday, 14 November, 2008 8:44:01 PM
> Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: New Member
>
>
> --- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "sangita142002"
> <sangita142002@ ...> wrote:
> >
> > Hi all!
> > Another new member among our midst. The tribe grows what?! This
new
> > member needs us to talk things over and help her or him through.
We
> > would definately do what we can.
> > Welcome new member, tell us about yourself. People share an awful
lot
> > here so go ahead.
> > Regards
> > Sangita
> >
> Hi, my name is sue,I am 45 and live in the country. Have been very
> sick the last few years and with that came depression and negative
> thoughts,{not suicide}. Just thought nobody cared enough. None of
my
> friends stayed around to give support,my husband works away but
didnt
> understand what I was going through, untill, after trying toget
answers
> from my Dr.{being called a hypocondriact} I decided to go to a
> Natropath. She gave me answers nobody else could. Am slowly getting
> better but have had no one to talk to to help me through. It has
been
> hard..
>
>
>
>
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