----- Original Message -----
From: xiaoli ma
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Sent: Monday, February 25, 2008 9:26 PM
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] An essential difference between men and
women??
it can be embarrassing to share some things
This is my first entry, and so I may be making a point wrongly.
Please correct me if this is the case.
Perhaps a solution to the "embarassment" dilemma is to not actually
tell a cousellor, but to talk to oneself, either in written or tape
recording form. I suspect that the main function of a counsellor is
to act as a sounding board, where the person with a problem actually
identifies the underlying reasons for their problem. Actually
enunciating the problem can help the person sort things out
themselves, without the need for a counsellor. A counsellor can help,
but when things are too embarassing, it would probably be better for
the person to talk or write to themselves. They can play back the
recording and see what it sounds like to a listener. I wonder what
members who make use of counselling think of this approach. I would
welcome their comments, re the importance of counsellors in the mix.
--- In mylifeismine@
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> Hi all, Just a quick look and quick reply: As obvious essential
major difference is due to main s determine hormones (testosterone
and progesterone)
growth, GLI, other hormones, enzymes, metabolism, anatomy and whole
physiology) and emotional differences. Regards, M
>
> Frankomelb <frankomelb@
> Thanks for all the thoughts/opinions that have been
coming through on this forum.
> I have been reading them as they come and have found this topic
the first one to make a contribution-
>
> The biggest difference might be that guys tend to hang on until
stuff becomes overwhelming.
> We often tell ourselves that things will work out and that
everything will be alright.
> This is often a delusion as there are so many things that we have
no control over.
> When things don't work the way we hope/wish/plan and then
actually realise this new situation, it goes directly against
everything we have told ourselves and want to believe. So at that
point, it all falls apart, and we simply lose the plot and ourselves
in the process.
>
> Therapy/counselling is a wonderful thing for both the individual
as well as a couple (providing you are both committed).
> But you'll only get as much out of the sessions as you're
prepared to put in.
> That means getting real about your issues and truly talking about
and exploring your feelings.
> The difference with me perhaps is I'm a Gen-Xer who's taking
responsibility for my life fully and not prepared to put up with BS
in my life.
>
>
> ----- Forwarded Message ----
> From: Rose Lind <roselind@..
> To: mylifeismine@
> Sent: Tuesday, 26 February, 2008 7:15:05 PM
> Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] An essential difference between men and
women??
>
> Well, for me, it is like if I off-load somewhere I have the
pay the price.
>
> I see a counsellor when necessary and that is not often but a
good safety net.
>
> I guess it is not in most people's reality that counselling is a
movement forward.
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: xiaoli ma
> To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
> Sent: Monday, February 25, 2008 9:26 PM
> Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] An essential difference between men
and women??
>
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> it can be embarrassing to share some things
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> ANTHONY DWYER <tammyredsurf@ yahoo.com. au> wrote: THATS RIGHT
>
> Julie Neill <julientuareg@ hotmail.com> wrote: I was having a
discussion last night with two men regarding separation
> (surprise surprise). They both agreed that they kept their
separation
> from their wives a secret for as long as possible (both wives left
> them after 25 years +). When questioned they commented that it was
> embarrassing to tell people what had happened to them. I on the
other
> hand told everyone - whether they were interested or not!! My
opinion
> was share the load!!. Is this a male / female thing and if so why do
> men want to keep these things hidden as long as possible?
>
> Julie
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