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Re: [mylifeismine] Relationship myths and legends

Hi Tiffany

I hear you, we all do! We all share the same fears and concerns. Its in a relationship that weare most vulnerable. You are now 40. Do you realise that this may be the best time in your life to have a relationship? The mistakes one makes in the heat and agressiveness of youth are now tempered down. We have much more experience now, we are calmer, stronger and dont get upset easily. There are very few unpleasant surprises (of course the world can be a crummy palce and people act in the most awful manner).

One thing that I feel I have learned is that relationships are tough! They require so much work. They require you to be strong, pro-active and positive. Its not enough to just bear or tolerate a partner's idiosyncracies or quirks. One has to be positive about it. Of course I dont mean you take crap from anyone but dont take everything personally as far as the other person is concerned. Its in such an intimate realtionship that you have to distance yourself occasionally from certain parts of the relationship.

Another thing I have learnt is that you have to have confidence in yourself and be sure about yourself in the face of tremendous uncertainty.

And never short change yourself. You do not deserve to be in a crummy relationship. You are a beautiful sensible person and must not allow anyone to take advantage of you even it means walkling away from a person who is doing that to you.

Life is one endless learning process and you are too young to give up!

Cheers

Sangita

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From: tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Friday, 6 February, 2009, 3:31 PM

Hi there everyone

My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I am
now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a relationship
where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
settle for less?

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[mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

You are very right dear.
I also feel the same.
But I realized later on that nothing is in our hand.
We are only puppets in the hand of destiny.
For this all read my
www.srimadbhagwatgeeta.com
www.jaipaldatta.com

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<tiffanymeek2000@...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>

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[mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

Hi there,

I don't have much to offer in terms of advice, but I thought that you
might benefit from another perspective. Each of your relationships
could be seen as a journey or an experience rather than an achievement
of success or failure. What would a successful relationship be like
for you? how long would it last? How would you say it's a success and
by what definition are you calling it a failure?

Nothing is altogether black or all white. There are positives that
come from each relationship and the lessons that you can learn from
the people who touch your lives. Sometimes that is for a short time,
sometimes that is for much longer. Even if you stay with the same
person for a number of years, you will grow and change together as
your needs change.

Not many people live in the same house forever. They move house for so
many reasons. It doesn't mean the house was a failure, or that their
living situation was a failure. It's just a house. Some houses are
more suitable than others. Some are more comfortable than others,
some are more expensive too.

it's just a thought...Not the solution for you, but hopefully you can
find some hope there.

-- In mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@...> wrote:
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> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I
am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a
relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>

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[mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

Morning Tiffany,
I felt compelled to reply, I am almost 42 and relate to your deep
heartache, as it echoes my own. If I may respond with some personal
insight: NEVER settle! The key is to find that loving, respectful
relationship with YOURSELF before you are able to attract the same
from others. Essentially we teach people how they should teach us by
setting the example of how we treat ourselves, what we will and wont
accept, and how we define ourselves. There is tonnes of psychology,
sociology realted to this topic, and is also covered by the laws of
attraction (as discussed in The Secret and the many principles
associated to Quantum Physics, lots of literature if you are
interested).

For the moment please go to this link and read the wonderful articles
contained, but especially the article on Commitment:

www.novaholisticjournal.com

This journal comes out monthly and I make it a priority to read the
articles, as they contain a wealth of wisdom written in laymans
terms. If you want more in depth background, please feel free to
leave a message for me and I can point you towards more specific
information on this topic.

Girl, love yourself 'to thy own self be true' - you deserve the best,
learn to believe it and live it everyday, follow your higher path.

With much love, Gail

--- In mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I
am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a
relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>

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Re: [mylifeismine] Relationship myths and legends

of course there is please why settle?

do you want to have something that you do not want?

seems silly to me.

i am looking myself for a person who can look deeper than my skin and what i even do , but is prepared to look into my soul and laugh and cry with me.

and no i am not gay, or a woman masquerading as a man.

i am a man who wants to be happy with a woman who is happy with what we become together.

i want us to exist and be happy and need each other.

i want to find a woman i can trust with my heart and soul.

not one who will lie and cheat on me.

so ask me more please and maybe i can help you understand men like me exist, for real, and we are willing to be tested and tried and prove ourselves.

not to submit to anothers will but to prove trust and high morals.

so please ask.

matt

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From: tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Friday, February 6, 2009, 10:01 AM

Hi there everyone

My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I am
now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a relationship
where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
settle for less?

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[mylifeismine] Relationship myths and legends

Hi there everyone

My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I am
now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
parents/friends, and by television/movies/books. So much of this
belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a relationship
where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
settle for less?

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