Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

oh i understand that it was a metaphor but i find it sad that so many are prepared to move on readily when a relationship becomes difficult
i think that is what i was getting at sangita
i think we both have seen that life is not all good and i would say that we need some adversity to test relationships sometimes
perhaps i am blind
i also believe we should do away with war
i suppose some of these things i think are not possible but they are where i think we all need to be heading towards
i have been under enormous stress with fires you may have heard of them in victoria. i have friends who have lost homes and some, my oldest daughter included are missing so i am thinking only with some of my attention
but i think this is an important point to discuss
and i hope you did not take it personnaly fiona
 
love to all
 
matt

--- On Sun, 2/8/09, sangita borgave <sangita142002@yahoo.co.in> wrote:
From: sangita borgave <sangita142002@yahoo.co.in>
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Sunday, February 8, 2009, 10:12 AM

I think it was just a metaphor.

--- On Sat, 7/2/09, matthew naughton <mattynaught01@ yahoo.com> wrote:
From: matthew naughton <mattynaught01@ yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Cc: fionacomber@ yahoo.com. au
Date: Saturday, 7 February, 2009, 2:23 PM

a house is a pile of bricks
a person is a soul
please do not compare and please do not belittle the importance of a life long relationship of love and commitment

--- On Sat, 2/7/09, fionacomber <fionacomber@ yahoo.com. au> wrote:
From: fionacomber <fionacomber@ yahoo.com. au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Date: Saturday, February 7, 2009, 1:58 AM

Hi there,

I don't have much to offer in terms of advice, but I thought that you
might benefit from another perspective. Each of your relationships
could be seen as a journey or an experience rather than an achievement
of success or failure. What would a successful relationship be like
for you? how long would it last? How would you say it's a success and
by what definition are you calling it a failure?

Nothing is altogether black or all white. There are positives that
come from each relationship and the lessons that you can learn from
the people who touch your lives. Sometimes that is for a short time,
sometimes that is for much longer. Even if you stay with the same
person for a number of years, you will grow and change together as
your needs change.

Not many people live in the same house forever. They move house for so
many reasons. It doesn't mean the house was a failure, or that their
living situation was a failure. It's just a house. Some houses are
more suitable than others. Some are more comfortable than others,
some are more expensive too.

it's just a thought...Not the solution for you, but hopefully you can
find some hope there.

-- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I
am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a
relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>



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Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

I think it was just a metaphor.

--- On Sat, 7/2/09, matthew naughton <mattynaught01@yahoo.com> wrote:
From: matthew naughton <mattynaught01@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Cc: fionacomber@yahoo.com.au
Date: Saturday, 7 February, 2009, 2:23 PM

a house is a pile of bricks
a person is a soul
please do not compare and please do not belittle the importance of a life long relationship of love and commitment

--- On Sat, 2/7/09, fionacomber <fionacomber@ yahoo.com. au> wrote:
From: fionacomber <fionacomber@ yahoo.com. au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Date: Saturday, February 7, 2009, 1:58 AM

Hi there,

I don't have much to offer in terms of advice, but I thought that you
might benefit from another perspective. Each of your relationships
could be seen as a journey or an experience rather than an achievement
of success or failure. What would a successful relationship be like
for you? how long would it last? How would you say it's a success and
by what definition are you calling it a failure?

Nothing is altogether black or all white. There are positives that
come from each relationship and the lessons that you can learn from
the people who touch your lives. Sometimes that is for a short time,
sometimes that is for much longer. Even if you stay with the same
person for a number of years, you will grow and change together as
your needs change.

Not many people live in the same house forever. They move house for so
many reasons. It doesn't mean the house was a failure, or that their
living situation was a failure. It's just a house. Some houses are
more suitable than others. Some are more comfortable than others,
some are more expensive too.

it's just a thought...Not the solution for you, but hopefully you can
find some hope there.

-- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I
am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a
relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>



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Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

I think that we must do our best despite the fact that the out come may not be what we want. That is real courage. That sometimes despite doing your best things dont work out. You must accept that. We are not always in control.

--- On Sat, 7/2/09, matthew naughton <mattynaught01@yahoo.com> wrote:
From: matthew naughton <mattynaught01@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Cc: jpsdatta@yahoo.co.nz
Date: Saturday, 7 February, 2009, 2:34 PM

does that not absolve you of your esponsibility?
that i s very poor in my veiw i think that a relationship takes work, if you say you are a puppet in the hands of destiny then you relinquish control pf your own life
i consider that to be fundamentally wrong

--- On Sat, 2/7/09, Jaipal Singh Datta <jpsdatta@yahoo. co.nz> wrote:
From: Jaipal Singh Datta <jpsdatta@yahoo. co.nz>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Date: Saturday, February 7, 2009, 2:25 AM

You are very right dear.
I also feel the same.
But I realized later on that nothing is in our hand.
We are only puppets in the hand of destiny.
For this all read my
www.srimadbhagwatge eta.com
www.jaipaldatta. com

--- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>



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