[mylifeismine] My life is mine



Thanks for your response,
Maybe the problem is in mine, because I dont want to have best friends, as I dont want to share my life with them. I have few friends but once i feel they start to get involve in my life then I start to take a distance between us...

there are a lot of things keep swinging around inside my head, I keep thinking I need a friend which I can talk to about my problem, but other side my mind I know I dont need anybody because i found sometimes people like to judge rather than give a solution...

I dont know if I am wrong or right...


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Re: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?

Hi Sangita,
 
Lovely to hear you had a chance to look Byron Katie up. I have a little book of some of her insights (there is a link on the website for this), which I really enjoy & have passed to many friends.
 
Our chat has raised this subject has been very timely for me, and drew me back to her concepts at a time when I needed to review them & reposition my mind - centre myself! Instead of the boat (me) rocking insanely across the sea of life, the keel (me) is achieving balance once more. No doubt it may become tossed upon waves once more, but I am grateful to know where to look to quell the sea-sickness!
 
Forgive the metaphors, but they are so very true.
With thanks & blessings, Gail


From: sangita borgave <sangita142002@yahoo.co.in>
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Sent: Monday, 30 March, 2009 7:54:53 PM
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?

Hi!
  I kept this mail in my inbox so that  I could reply to it. (I have been a little pressed for time). Thank you Gail for your kind words, I always enjoy reading your responses in this forum.
 I deliberately waited till i had checked out Byron Katie's website and I found it interesting.
 Changing your perception can be the most difficult thing but it is an effort that proves worthwhile.
 Life really is too short. We should make the best of it. Who knows what wonderful things things lie at the end of the tunnel?!!
Warm regards
Sangita

--- On Sat, 21/3/09, Gail <positiveeq@yahoo. com.au> wrote:

From: Gail <positiveeq@yahoo. com.au>
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Date: Saturday, 21 March, 2009, 4:43 AM

For most of us the switch is there, we just got to find it & choose to turn it on!!
 
As usual Sangita has provided us all with beautiful advice - you must be a lovely person Sangita, it is an honour to share with you.
 
May I add something for everyone: an author who helped me through a traumatic time in my life, and allowed me to be able to change my perception, because that is all that it is about:
 
Byron Katie - do a google search to find her home page, there is a wealth of helpful advice and many great exercises - she writes from experience..
 
Love & be loved, it is the greatest single cure that exists, and as Ghandi so profoundly stated: Be the change you want to see in the world.
 
Blessings, Gail


From: sangita borgave <sangita142002@ yahoo.co. in>
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Sent: Thursday, 19 March, 2009 4:58:20 PM
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?

Hello
 Everyone goes through dark periods. I have recently become good friends with a wonderful person who suffers from depression and that got me thinking about it. I also have a cousin brother who suffers from depression but he seems to have given up the fight which has all of us irritated and concerned at the same time.
 The thing is life holds so many challenges and so many of us are struggling so much that how are we any different form people sufferring from the disease? Dont get me wrong, I know how powerfully depression can handicap you, but what I mean is so many of us so called "normal people" often have such long and dark periods of feeling low, where we feel overwhelmed by life's challenges.
 Anyway those were just some of my thoughts.
 As for dealing with this I always depend on exercise. I exercise like my life depended on it (it probably does). No many how shitty you feel before starting a workout you always feel better at the end of it. It does'nt have to be a perfect work out, but it should be a little strenuous. After a good bout of exercise you feel physically and mentally lighter. I often walk very briskly with soem uphill trekking for an hour. There is a place not far from my house with woods and lots of trees and I take myself there if I'm feeling down. I have my music and then I set off. (But not melancholy music).
 I also eat well - i.e.. no junk food, lots of fruits and vegetables and no soda  or alcohol. I keep the food simple and home cooked.
Its just not worth it to give in to cravings and then feel worse afterwards. You only delay your recovery period if you do that.
 I also read a lot of positive books. I am currently reading "Psychocybernetics" by Dr Maxwell Maltz. Its reputedly a very popular book on how to get more out of your life.
 And last but not the least talking with a good friend always helps. It helps to get it out of your system a little. When someone tells you that you are not the only one sufferring or that what you are sufferring is normal and that you will get out of it, well it helps to some extent.
And always remind yourself that life is not fair. And if you are sufferring.. .. well...if not you then who? Would you be so bad as to wish your problems on someone else?  Who would you give your problems to? Your neighbour? Your parents? your friends?

--- On Tue, 17/3/09, matthew naughton <mattynaught01@ yahoo.com> wrote:

From: matthew naughton <mattynaught01@ yahoo.com>
Subject: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Date: Tuesday, 17 March, 2009, 6:18 PM

hi
 
i just went through a period during which i knew i was going to end up in a very dark place.
i could not avoid it but i talked about it with a valued and trusted friend and it helped me when that time arrived, as it is normally a very bad time.
however i believe that a few well chosen and simple words helped me through this time a lot quicker than would have been normally the case.
does any one else have simillar experience that they would like to share, how they cope when they know they are depressed or just low?
i would find it helpfull and i am sure some others would too.
 
matt


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Re: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?

Hi!
  I kept this mail in my inbox so that  I could reply to it. (I have been a little pressed for time). Thank you Gail for your kind words, I always enjoy reading your responses in this forum.
 I deliberately waited till i had checked out Byron Katie's website and I found it interesting.
 Changing your perception can be the most difficult thing but it is an effort that proves worthwhile.
 Life really is too short. We should make the best of it. Who knows what wonderful things things lie at the end of the tunnel?!!
Warm regards
Sangita

--- On Sat, 21/3/09, Gail <positiveeq@yahoo.com.au> wrote:

From: Gail <positiveeq@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Saturday, 21 March, 2009, 4:43 AM

For most of us the switch is there, we just got to find it & choose to turn it on!!
 
As usual Sangita has provided us all with beautiful advice - you must be a lovely person Sangita, it is an honour to share with you.
 
May I add something for everyone: an author who helped me through a traumatic time in my life, and allowed me to be able to change my perception, because that is all that it is about:
 
Byron Katie - do a google search to find her home page, there is a wealth of helpful advice and many great exercises - she writes from experience..
 
Love & be loved, it is the greatest single cure that exists, and as Ghandi so profoundly stated: Be the change you want to see in the world.
 
Blessings, Gail


From: sangita borgave <sangita142002@ yahoo.co. in>
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Sent: Thursday, 19 March, 2009 4:58:20 PM
Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?

Hello
 Everyone goes through dark periods. I have recently become good friends with a wonderful person who suffers from depression and that got me thinking about it. I also have a cousin brother who suffers from depression but he seems to have given up the fight which has all of us irritated and concerned at the same time.
 The thing is life holds so many challenges and so many of us are struggling so much that how are we any different form people sufferring from the disease? Dont get me wrong, I know how powerfully depression can handicap you, but what I mean is so many of us so called "normal people" often have such long and dark periods of feeling low, where we feel overwhelmed by life's challenges.
 Anyway those were just some of my thoughts.
 As for dealing with this I always depend on exercise. I exercise like my life depended on it (it probably does). No many how shitty you feel before starting a workout you always feel better at the end of it. It does'nt have to be a perfect work out, but it should be a little strenuous. After a good bout of exercise you feel physically and mentally lighter. I often walk very briskly with soem uphill trekking for an hour. There is a place not far from my house with woods and lots of trees and I take myself there if I'm feeling down. I have my music and then I set off. (But not melancholy music).
 I also eat well - i.e. no junk food, lots of fruits and vegetables and no soda  or alcohol. I keep the food simple and home cooked.
Its just not worth it to give in to cravings and then feel worse afterwards. You only delay your recovery period if you do that.
 I also read a lot of positive books. I am currently reading "Psychocybernetics" by Dr Maxwell Maltz. Its reputedly a very popular book on how to get more out of your life.
 And last but not the least talking with a good friend always helps. It helps to get it out of your system a little. When someone tells you that you are not the only one sufferring or that what you are sufferring is normal and that you will get out of it, well it helps to some extent.
And always remind yourself that life is not fair. And if you are sufferring.. .. well...if not you then who? Would you be so bad as to wish your problems on someone else?  Who would you give your problems to? Your neighbour? Your parents? your friends?

--- On Tue, 17/3/09, matthew naughton <mattynaught01@ yahoo.com> wrote:

From: matthew naughton <mattynaught01@ yahoo.com>
Subject: [mylifeismine] bit dark in here, where is the switch?
To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
Date: Tuesday, 17 March, 2009, 6:18 PM

hi
 
i just went through a period during which i knew i was going to end up in a very dark place.
i could not avoid it but i talked about it with a valued and trusted friend and it helped me when that time arrived, as it is normally a very bad time.
however i believe that a few well chosen and simple words helped me through this time a lot quicker than would have been normally the case.
does any one else have simillar experience that they would like to share, how they cope when they know they are depressed or just low?
i would find it helpfull and i am sure some others would too.
 
matt


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