Hi there,
I don't have much to offer in terms of advice, but I thought that you
might benefit from another perspective. Each of your relationships
could be seen as a journey or an experience rather than an achievement
of success or failure. What would a successful relationship be like
for you? how long would it last? How would you say it's a success and
by what definition are you calling it a failure?
Nothing is altogether black or all white. There are positives that
come from each relationship and the lessons that you can learn from
the people who touch your lives. Sometimes that is for a short time,
sometimes that is for much longer. Even if you stay with the same
person for a number of years, you will grow and change together as
your needs change.
Not many people live in the same house forever. They move house for so
many reasons. It doesn't mean the house was a failure, or that their
living situation was a failure. It's just a house. Some houses are
more suitable than others. Some are more comfortable than others,
some are more expensive too.
it's just a thought...Not the solution for you, but hopefully you can
find some hope there.
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mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
<tiffanymeek2000@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi there everyone
>
> My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16. I
am
> now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a believe
> system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
> belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out there
> who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner? This
> is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection with
> their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a
relationship
> where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I want a
> relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want my
> life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> settle for less?
>
