Re: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

Hey Lana...
Great to hear that karma has taken its own course - it normally does. Which teaches us that it is not necessary to become tied up into all the melodrama, because as soon as we become caught in the web we lose our powers of insightful observation, and often make poor choices, which then have repercussions of their own. Perhaps this would be a valuable suggestion for the daughter and others who are following a path that will cause them personal pain and dis-harmony in their lives.
 
As far as the person who has committed these acts, their actions expose them to be students who need to learn some valuable life lessons. And life will always bring those lessons to us should we not take the responsibilty ourselves to learn what conscious living is about. By respecting ourselves, we respect others - karma and dharma - it's all quite simple actually ;)
 
By living from a good place within ourselves, we areable to manifest harmony in our lives - and share it with others. This lesson is the art of Zen, and one which our troubled world needs to learn so desperately. However, the guru/teacher will only appear when the student is ready (or in other words, you can take the horse to water, but you can't make it drink). Each person is responsible to walk their own path.
 
May peace be your guide,
Gail

From: lana.ingham <lana.ingham@yahoo.com.au>
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Sent: Tuesday, 17 February, 2009 10:17:38 PM
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: Relationship myths and legends

Thanks Matty and Fiona,
I appreciate your thoughts and yes; in both ways both of you have
good points.
The thing was that today things took their own course a bit - he had
hit on ANOTHER woman too; who knows my best friend. So it sort of got
taken out of my hands; which was good for me because I don't have to
work this out anymore and not have egg on my face.
My best friend was devastated. But why - and I cannot understand
why! - she has chosen to stay with the loser! She didn't know what he
was up to; but I had the chance to say to her "Well, he actually said
a few lines to me at different times too."
It was like; just another kick in the head to her but she just nodded
and took it really hard. The trouble is; now the daughter is on the
go and has set up a profile to 'catch him out'. All this happened
without anything said by me - all because he hit on another woman and
she has gone berserk.
I agree with Fiona = I would hate to have that happen to me; my
husband cheating and everyone but me knowing. But he is a real low
life; he tried to lie his way out of it to start with. But he had
been really stupid!! and got too many woman off-side.
He isn't even a 'catch' - he has nothing going for him. A real loser.
Whatever my poor friend decides - I will be a good friend to her but
I am afraid it has gone out of control and I might have to just be
getting pretty much cranky with that said husband for all his hurt
and upset he is caused. He also had another married woman on the
side and she has come forward in an alias name to say how he cheated
with her and then he cheated on her too!! God, what a mess -
although I don't think she was right to cheat either. I guess it just
goes to show how all this can ruin so many lives......
I am glad I am single......

--- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "fionacomber"
<fionacomber@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi there,
>
> I don't have much to offer in terms of advice, but I thought that
you
> might benefit from another perspective. Each of your relationships
> could be seen as a journey or an experience rather than an
achievement
> of success or failure. What would a successful relationship be like
> for you? how long would it last? How would you say it's a success
and
> by what definition are you calling it a failure?
>
> Nothing is altogether black or all white. There are positives that
> come from each relationship and the lessons that you can learn from
> the people who touch your lives. Sometimes that is for a short
time,
> sometimes that is for much longer. Even if you stay with the same
> person for a number of years, you will grow and change together as
> your needs change.
>
> Not many people live in the same house forever. They move house for
so
> many reasons. It doesn't mean the house was a failure, or that
their
> living situation was a failure. It's just a house. Some houses are
> more suitable than others. Some are more comfortable than others,
> some are more expensive too.
>
> it's just a thought...Not the solution for you, but hopefully you
can
> find some hope there.
>
> -- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, "tiffanymeek2000"
> <tiffanymeek2000@ > wrote:
> >
> > Hi there everyone
> >
> > My life has been a series of failed relationships since I was 16.
I
> am
> > now 40. I feel as if I have been duped in some way. I have a
believe
> > system around relationships based on what I have been taught by my
> > parents/friends, and by television/movies/ books. So much of this
> > belief system seems to be myths and legend. Are there men out
there
> > who WANT to have an exceptional life with their female partner?
This
> > is not a sarcastic question, it comes straight from my heart. Are
> > there emotionally available men out there who seek a connection
with
> > their partner on both a physical and mental level? I want a
> > relationship that is so much more than mundane. I want a
> relationship
> > where the differences between men and women are celebrated. I
want a
> > relationship that is built on honesty, openness and trust. I want
my
> > life to be full of joy and I want a partner who wants the same for
> > himself. Is my belief system unrealistic? Should I be prepared to
> > settle for less?
> >
>


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