Re: [mylifeismine] support for kanga4282

Perfection - you are not meant to be perfect but perfectly human and you have succeeded :-) .
The 'spot' can be found through the 'power of Now' written about in book of same title by Eckhart Tolle.
The Now can easily be found by placing your attention on how your body feels. In that moment you stop thinking and simply are.
On a greater scale it connects you with the universe in a feeling of being one with it.
A good way to release negative energy is to touch the plants in your garden, hug a tree (and thank it for being there), put your hands into the earth (gardening). Natural naturally absorbs negative energy putting it to positive use.
TTFN
Sue

tiffanymeek2000 wrote:

Dear Kanga

In my mid twenties I burnt out and was bedridden for a while. My
parents had to nurse me like a child. I held on to my sanity for grim
death. And I made it through. It was the worse and best time of my
life because I stood on the precipice and looked over, and I saw many
things about myself and the world. I still make many mistakes in my
life... I have no expectation of perfection, but I understand some of
the things that REALLY matter.

Here's the thing...

Inside you is a spot, it is hard to describe, but you can find it if
you sit quietly and contemplate on it. It is a spot that is higher,
greater than the rest of you
. It is a part of you, and yet it isn't. I
don't think it has a name. It never gets depressed, it never gets
angry, and it is never happy - it just IS. If you can find this place
inside you, I believe it can lead you out of the dark well that you
reside in. At least it did for me. And it has for other people who
have turned to me for advice. Ask it questions and it will answer, and
the answers are always right and always to your benefit. I usually
hesitate to share this with most people because it sounds a little
strange to many - but I found it, it healed me, and therefore I know
it to be true for me.

Wrap your mind in cottonwool, as if it is broken, and tend to it with
love and care. Even if you don't like yourself or your world right now
accept that this is not your true path, and conscientiously turn away
from it. Read positive books, walk in green lush gardens, be with kind
and gentle friends, sit by streams and watch the water go by. Let
yourself BE. While you are so ill (and that's what depression is) put
yourself first and let good people care for you. This is what every
ill person needs. Give yourself every opportunity to heal. Surround
yourself with the things you need to heal.

I'm not sure if this is the case for you - but for me I found myself
absorbed by introspection. This can be good and bad. If you are
totally absorbed with thinking about and feeling what is going on
inside you, then you need to do things that will bring you back to the
outside world for a proportion of the day. Constant negative
introspection will draw you down, down, down. Let yourself be lifted
by beautiful things, animals, nature. Get yourself back to the basics.
Concentrate on eating lovely healthy food, being with friends, walking
in beautiful places.

I think that one of the worst things that you can do when you are
depressed is watch TV. Television is designed to give you an emotional
rollercoaster ride. For a depressed or burnt out person, it is like
trying to run on a broken leg with no caste.

And please remember - depression is your adversary. It will try to
convince you of many things which are untrue. In the place you are in
now you cannot see the miracle of life. But nothing changes the fact
that this is an undeniable TRUTH. In the same way that you could be
dying of thirst in the dessert, and not be able to see the well just
over the dune - you've walked for days and there was no well, so why
believe it could be there. But the fact is - the well IS THERE.

Depression is natures way of telling you that you are ignoring your
true self - not the part of you that wants a fancy car, or a fancy
house - but the part of you that wants peace, a place, and a sense of
belonging amongst other things. Give yourself these things, one step
at a time, and you will heal.

I don't know why you have come to be depressed Kanga, but something
within your journey is trapped deep down inside, and has yet to be
faced. Find it, face it, give it a piece of your mind - then hug it
close, forgive it, and let it go to a place where it can live out
eternity in peace. Then you will be free.

You have my love and respect on your journey out of depression and
back to a happy life.

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Re: [mylifeismine] Re: What to do?? Friend's hubby is a cheater.....

I'd rather give advice than regret not having done so.
I don't think anyone gives advice that's not well intentioned.
Advice given doesn't have to be acted on, and it does give further possibilities when sometimes we wonder what we should do next.
Sometimes there's no right answer.
TTFN
Sue

matthew naughton wrote:

i think we keep learning until we die and we always take caution giving advice

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Re: [mylifeismine] What would I do?...

what would i do?
 
i am writing because i always wanted to and doing a uni course in creative writing
i spend time with my family because i can sometimes but i do not worry to much if i am too busy for a little while but carefull its not too long
my body has failed me in various ways and i have learnt that acceptance is a good thing
i have travelled some but i am not finished yet
i live in the bush and in spite of various dangers it is too beautiful to be amongst nature every day to want to move away to somwhere safer
my doctor told me to sell the bike when i injured myself big mistake that will be rectified before the end of the year, nothing is as good as that, nothing
i read with a hunger that will never be satisfied for i allow that
and next year when my studies are complete in my current course i will start to study philosophy because i have always wanted to
so i think i have turned a corner in my life
i no longer want to do things i have found what i want and i pursue it
i think i would change nothing now as modest and frustrating as my life can be
as dark as it can be
for these challenges help me apreciate the good things and i no longer want the big bag of cash or the large house shiny car
 
if i can find the one who fits my soul into hers neatly if not perfectly then that is the one thing i would change
 
the rest is just life as it is and i am happy with it
 
 


--- On Mon, 2/23/09, tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au> wrote:
From: tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] What would I do?...
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Monday, February 23, 2009, 2:34 PM

I know most people are busy busy with family, work etc. but would love
to know what you guys/gals would choose to do if you had more time/money.

What would I do? Well for a start...
I'd spend many more hours in the joyful company of family and friends,
because that is where I can find true happiness.
I'd go back to the gym and get super fit again, because when I'm fit I
feel bulletproof (I'm exaggerating! ).
I'd travel and see/meet native cultures and miracles of mother nature,
because I feel totally inspired by the world in its most basic state.
I'd buy a motorbike again, because I love the feeling of freedom, the
smell of the wind, and the small sense of danger.
I'd read more books - especially on Buddhist philosophy, because I
enjoy their perspective on life and relating to people.
I'd take dancing lessons, because dancing is a joy for me (and
prancing around the house with a hairbrush for a mic just doesn't do
it for me anymore!).
I'd spend time in quiet contemplation, because that is how I know I
can keep my life in perspective.

.... watch this spot for more!


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[mylifeismine] support for kanga4282

Dear Kanga

In my mid twenties I burnt out and was bedridden for a while. My
parents had to nurse me like a child. I held on to my sanity for grim
death. And I made it through. It was the worse and best time of my
life because I stood on the precipice and looked over, and I saw many
things about myself and the world. I still make many mistakes in my
life... I have no expectation of perfection, but I understand some of
the things that REALLY matter.

Here's the thing...

Inside you is a spot, it is hard to describe, but you can find it if
you sit quietly and contemplate on it. It is a spot that is higher,
greater than the rest of you. It is a part of you, and yet it isn't. I
don't think it has a name. It never gets depressed, it never gets
angry, and it is never happy - it just IS. If you can find this place
inside you, I believe it can lead you out of the dark well that you
reside in. At least it did for me. And it has for other people who
have turned to me for advice. Ask it questions and it will answer, and
the answers are always right and always to your benefit. I usually
hesitate to share this with most people because it sounds a little
strange to many - but I found it, it healed me, and therefore I know
it to be true for me.

Wrap your mind in cottonwool, as if it is broken, and tend to it with
love and care. Even if you don't like yourself or your world right now
accept that this is not your true path, and conscientiously turn away
from it. Read positive books, walk in green lush gardens, be with kind
and gentle friends, sit by streams and watch the water go by. Let
yourself BE. While you are so ill (and that's what depression is) put
yourself first and let good people care for you. This is what every
ill person needs. Give yourself every opportunity to heal. Surround
yourself with the things you need to heal.

I'm not sure if this is the case for you - but for me I found myself
absorbed by introspection. This can be good and bad. If you are
totally absorbed with thinking about and feeling what is going on
inside you, then you need to do things that will bring you back to the
outside world for a proportion of the day. Constant negative
introspection will draw you down, down, down. Let yourself be lifted
by beautiful things, animals, nature. Get yourself back to the basics.
Concentrate on eating lovely healthy food, being with friends, walking
in beautiful places.

I think that one of the worst things that you can do when you are
depressed is watch TV. Television is designed to give you an emotional
rollercoaster ride. For a depressed or burnt out person, it is like
trying to run on a broken leg with no caste.

And please remember - depression is your adversary. It will try to
convince you of many things which are untrue. In the place you are in
now you cannot see the miracle of life. But nothing changes the fact
that this is an undeniable TRUTH. In the same way that you could be
dying of thirst in the dessert, and not be able to see the well just
over the dune - you've walked for days and there was no well, so why
believe it could be there. But the fact is - the well IS THERE.

Depression is natures way of telling you that you are ignoring your
true self - not the part of you that wants a fancy car, or a fancy
house - but the part of you that wants peace, a place, and a sense of
belonging amongst other things. Give yourself these things, one step
at a time, and you will heal.

I don't know why you have come to be depressed Kanga, but something
within your journey is trapped deep down inside, and has yet to be
faced. Find it, face it, give it a piece of your mind - then hug it
close, forgive it, and let it go to a place where it can live out
eternity in peace. Then you will be free.

You have my love and respect on your journey out of depression and
back to a happy life.

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Re: [mylifeismine] Re: What to do?? Friend's hubby is a cheater.....

i think we keep learning until we die and we always take caution giving advice


--- On Mon, 2/23/09, tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au> wrote:
From: tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] Re: What to do?? Friend's hubby is a cheater.....
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Monday, February 23, 2009, 2:11 PM

It goes to show how difficult it can be to give advice to strangers on
the road of life. When do we become the master, and when do we remain
the student? Is there a right and a wrong, or are there only shades of
grey? Will advice that is of benefit to one party, also be of equal
benefit to the other? Are we hearing the full story and therefore
giving a fully considered response? And how do we know that our advice
isn't coloured by our own life experience?

And if those questions can be answered, then have a go at telling me
this... What is the meaning of life?!!! LOL!

Tiff

--- In mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au, matthew naughton
<mattynaught01@ ...> wrote:
>
> i agree that the rotten sod should be shot from a cannon to the
centre of the sun, and no i do not think that a loving couple married
or otherwise should involve others in their sex life
> it seems to lead to great disasters in a lot of cases
> if it were my friend i would have told them what i knew, but this is
someone i do not know.
> i know nothing of their circumstance, and as such it would be unwise
to suggest saying something to the wife first.
> taht is what i think, he should be made to feel ashamed of himself
and if i were asked to do that even not knowing him i would do so.
> it poses many difficult questions however, most of which we as
onlookers, as you must admit we are, cannot answer.
> so advice must be very carefully metred out. and very carefully
thought out..
> i know she ought have been told but i cannot say from where i sit
what effect this would have had.
> and that worries me.
> having lost friends who killed themselves over the smallest things,
having lost friends who caught thier partners cheating and resorted to
murder and suicide, i can feel the very real concequence of a few ill
placed words very deep inside me.
> these are real outcomes from people becoming entagled in webs of
deceit and confusion.
> so i would not give advice so lightly.
> i am happy to hear that she now has found out and i hope she is
within her means to be able to dispense this rotten man.
> my sympathies go out to her.
> but asked the same question again, from so far a distance i would
answer the same.
> not the right thing i know but the least harmful approach perhaps.
> if anyone wants to discuss this further i for one would be very
happy to do so.
>  
>  
> matt
>
> --- On Tue, 2/17/09, Sue McEwen <chinkajack@ ...> wrote:
>
> From: Sue McEwen <chinkajack@ ...>
> Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] What to do?? Friend's hubby is a
cheater.....
> To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
> Date: Tuesday, February 17, 2009, 3:48 PM
>
>
>
>
>
>
> Hi Matt,
> I understand, but my approach is based on how I live my life. Is the
marriage basically a 'good' one when the husband is unfaithful?
> Your opinion suggests you think extra marital affairs are OK (lol).
> Just because a marriage has lasted a long time doesn't mean it
should be continued. The longer a mistake is made doesn't make it
better, sometimes is only extends the length of injury and pain.
> Tact and diplomacy are a must.
> That the husband is looking outside the marriage is proof that he
isn't getting something he needs within it. This doesn't mean a better
solution can't be found.
> Reading John Gray's books, particularly 'How to get what you want
and want what you have' and 'Men, women and relationships: making
peace with the opposite sex' might save their marriage if the husband
becomes aware of why he is looking outside his marriage and both are
willing to do something positive about it.
> It is likely that there is a lack of communication between husband
and wife, and that they don't understand the dynamics of their
relationship, as in the differences between men's and women's
thinking. John Gray's books have been such an eye-opener for me,
making it easier to understand male/female thinking and helping me
understand just how different we are. That we are supposed to be
different in this way.
> Knowledge is power.
> Bottom line for me is fidelity and trust. If I don't have that then
what's the point? I might as well share my life with the neighbour or
guy down the street.
> Men need to feel trusted, appreciated and accepted; women need to
feel respected, understood and cared for. Neither has what they want
so is this a good marriage?
> Should a caring friend step in and say something to either or both
and so allow the opportunity for positive change?
> As things currently stand in the marriage, it isn't a good one or
the husband wouldn't have an online profile at a singles site. He's
not single.
> What's the definition of a good marriage?
> TTFN
> Sue
>
> matthew naughton wrote:
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> sue, what you suggest could potentially destroy what could be a
basically good marriage
> you dont know i understand how you feel but if it was my best friend
i would aproach the other one first to try to save their marriage, do
not take this too lightly marriage that has lasted some time is
something to treasure
>
> --- On Mon, 2/16/09, Sue McEwen <chinkajack@ iprimus. com.au> wrote:
>
> From: Sue McEwen <chinkajack@ iprimus. com.au>
> Subject: Re: [mylifeismine] What to do?? Friend's hubby is a
cheater.....
> To: mylifeismine@ yahoogroups. com.au
> Date: Monday, February 16, 2009, 12:24 PM
>
>
>
>
> You can only follow your conscience. Were I in your place I would
tell my best friend what I know.
> It might be that she knows and appears to be ignorant to save face,
and maybe not. Some relationships are like this, and many are not.
> The eaisest way to tell your friend might be to show her a printout
of his online profile. Say 'look what I found' and that you are
worried about her.
> If everything is OK between them there should be no harm done.
> Marriage is supposed to be based on trust and commitment.
> If he is doing this behind his wife's back then he has betrayed her
trust and the basic premise of marriage.
> Would you be happy if one of your friends knew your husband (for
eg.) was doing this and they didn't tell you?
> Probably not.
> If your friend becomes angry that you stuck your nose in - simply
tell her you did it because you care about her, your best friend.
> TTFN
> Sue.
>


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Re: [mylifeismine] What would I do?...

Hello
 I am so busy but I just had to respond to this mail! Oh my god Tiffany, You have just echoed all my feelings and thoughts!! (I'm a little breathless even typing this).
  Actually a couple of days ago we got the Reader's Digest Sweepstakes entrance forms. The prize is this obscene amount of money. And while I am pretty much a woman who has lived within her means, well...those papers really got me thinking.
  What would  I do if I won such an obscene amount of money?  I would definately do all the things you mentioned i your mail. It would set me free would'nt it! I might leave my job, but maybe I would really work more sincerely becaue then I need not worry about my paycheck. I seriously think I would do that because I dont think I can party away my life.
 Yes I would be super fit, though I do not have an excuse for not doing that now, and no Tiffany You are not exaggerating - being superfit does make you bullet proof! I have felt it and want to feel it again!
  God  I could go on and on. And since  I wont have to choose between the places  I want to visit, I would go to Greece, Spain, Rome, Egypt, China,  Japan, UK, US, New Zealand (big Lord of the Rings fan here!!) and of course Australia to meet my friends from this group!
Cheers!!
What would u guys want to do?

--- On Mon, 23/2/09, tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au> wrote:
From: tiffanymeek2000 <tiffanymeek2000@yahoo.com.au>
Subject: [mylifeismine] What would I do?...
To: mylifeismine@yahoogroups.com.au
Date: Monday, 23 February, 2009, 8:04 PM

I know most people are busy busy with family, work etc. but would love
to know what you guys/gals would choose to do if you had more time/money.

What would I do? Well for a start...
I'd spend many more hours in the joyful company of family and friends,
because that is where I can find true happiness.
I'd go back to the gym and get super fit again, because when I'm fit I
feel bulletproof (I'm exaggerating! ).
I'd travel and see/meet native cultures and miracles of mother nature,
because I feel totally inspired by the world in its most basic state.
I'd buy a motorbike again, because I love the feeling of freedom, the
smell of the wind, and the small sense of danger.
I'd read more books - especially on Buddhist philosophy, because I
enjoy their perspective on life and relating to people.
I'd take dancing lessons, because dancing is a joy for me (and
prancing around the house with a hairbrush for a mic just doesn't do
it for me anymore!).
I'd spend time in quiet contemplation, because that is how I know I
can keep my life in perspective.

.... watch this spot for more!



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[mylifeismine] What would I do?...

I know most people are busy busy with family, work etc. but would love
to know what you guys/gals would choose to do if you had more time/money.

What would I do? Well for a start...
I'd spend many more hours in the joyful company of family and friends,
because that is where I can find true happiness.
I'd go back to the gym and get super fit again, because when I'm fit I
feel bulletproof (I'm exaggerating!).
I'd travel and see/meet native cultures and miracles of mother nature,
because I feel totally inspired by the world in its most basic state.
I'd buy a motorbike again, because I love the feeling of freedom, the
smell of the wind, and the small sense of danger.
I'd read more books - especially on Buddhist philosophy, because I
enjoy their perspective on life and relating to people.
I'd take dancing lessons, because dancing is a joy for me (and
prancing around the house with a hairbrush for a mic just doesn't do
it for me anymore!).
I'd spend time in quiet contemplation, because that is how I know I
can keep my life in perspective.

... watch this spot for more!

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